I was reading this post recently about infidelity by a popular blog icon - that his wife and him actually came to an agreement that if one day one is to commit any acts of infidelity, they would probably stick together as their marriage should be stronger than that.. Or.. They shouldn’t get married in the first place..
I thought they must be really trusting to come to such a conclusion at that moment.
Husby and I had such talks before we wedded too. Lots. I used to repeatedly get assurance for my insecurities. I don’t know why I have so much to worry about back then. Maybe I had the great foresight that I would turn fat and yellow like I am now.. Lol..
Anyway, we too came to an agreement. That rather our marriage to be strong enough to withstand breakage caused by infidelity, it should be strong enough to not want/need/involved any at all.
Of course, nobody speaks for the future, and I hope upon no one to have to come to such situations where we really have to put the strength of our marriage to test.
Husby gives in to me about (almost) everything. He’s cheeky and is usually a playmate but he gets really serious on this topic and is kinda non-forgiving on such offences. He “said” so but we both knew he’d forgiven before. I guess it’s painful from experience and he knew things will never be the same so he wouldn’t want it to happen to us.
I don’t know why but I knew for sure that I wouldn’t cheat on him for whatever reason or excuse. I know how arrogant and ignorant that sounds but I think the least I should have Now is the confidence to hold that sentence true.
Also, the blogger said there are a lot more to marriage than such principles - kids.
I know of many who kept it together for the kids, and may actually one day forgive and forget. That, is the sweet fruit from holding on. Again, I’m not sure I had that strength or shame to not abandon a potentially sinking ship.
So I actually admired that they thought about infidelity to such depth and could actually be in unison.
I believe that many promised to not cheat because we could not bear to think about what if we really cheated.